Life Beyond Shame

Life Beyond Shame

Author: Connie Dawson

Publisher:

ISBN: 1504344626

Category: Self-Help

Page: 274

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We've lived for eons with a set of rules guiding how we have relationships with one another. These Old Rules have, without question, been inadvertently passed, without examination, from generation to generation by our families. It's past time to expose them to the light of day. Why? Together, these Old Rules create a toxic environment we accept as inviolate. We struggle against others and against ourselves, not realizing that the shame-based Old Rules hold us back from being who we are meant to be and doing what we are meant to do. When feelings of undeserved shame (something is wrong with us) become part of how we think of ourselves, two things are true: 1) our true selves become more defended and less available to ourselves and others, and 2) we become more easily manipulated to serve someone else's needs in ways that are not in our best interests. That sense of shame and the Old Rules reinforce each other. One look at them and it's easy to see how they make it difficult to have healthy relationships. They are definitely not conducive to happiness. We know better. We just need to know how to do better, one rule at a time. Unmasking and replacing Old Rules with even one of the New Rules begins to change everything Change the rules, change the game.

Life Beyond Shame: Rewriting the Rules

Life Beyond Shame: Rewriting the Rules

Author: Connie Dawson, PhD

Publisher: Balboa Press

ISBN: 9781504344616

Category: Self-Help

Page: 274

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Weve lived for eons with a set of rules guiding how we have relationships with one another. These Old Rules have, without question, been inadvertently passed, without examination, from generation to generation by our families. Its past time to expose them to the light of day. Why? Together, these Old Rules create a toxic environment we accept as inviolate. We struggle against others and against ourselves, not realizing that the shame-based Old Rules hold us back from being who we are meant to be and doing what we are meant to do. When feelings of undeserved shame (something is wrong with us) become part of how we think of ourselves, two things are true: 1) our true selves become more defended and less available to ourselves and others, and 2) we become more easily manipulated to serve someone elses needs in ways that are not in our best interests. That sense of shame and the Old Rules reinforce each other. One look at them and its easy to see how they make it difficult to have healthy relationships. They are definitely not conducive to happiness. We know better. We just need to know how to do better, one rule at a time. Unmasking and replacing Old Rules with even one of the New Rules begins to change everything Change the rules, change the game.

Systemic Humiliation in America

Systemic Humiliation in America

Author: Daniel Rothbart

Publisher: Springer

ISBN: 9783319706795

Category: Social Science

Page: 246

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This volume explores contemporary social conflict, focusing on a sort of violence that rarely receives coverage in the evening news. This violence occurs when powerful institutions seek to manipulate the thoughts of marginalized people—manufacturing their feelings and fostering a sense of inferiority—for the purpose of disciplinary control. Many American institutions strategically orchestrate this psychic violence through tactics of systemic humiliation. This book reveals how certain counter-measures, based in a commitment to human dignity and respect for every person’s inherent moral worth, can combat this violence. Rothbart and other contributors showcase various examples of this tug-of-war in the US, including the politics of race and class in the 2016 presidential campaign, the dehumanizing treatment of people with mental disabilities, and destructive parenting styles that foster cycles of humiliation and emotional pain.

Rewriting the Rules

Rewriting the Rules

Author: Meg John Barker

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781351699730

Category: Psychology

Page: 382

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We live in a time of uncertainty about relationships. We search for The One but find ourselves staying single because nobody measures up. We long for a happily-ever-after but break-up after break-up leave us bruised and confused. Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships is a friendly guide through the complicated - and often contradictory - advice that's given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. It asks questions about the rules of love, such as which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse, rather than better? This new edition, updated throughout, considers how the rules are being 'rewritten' in various ways - for example in monogamish and polyamorous relationships, different ways of understanding sex and gender, and new ideas for managing commitment and break-up where economics, communities, or child-care make complete separation impossible. This book considers how the rules are being ‘rewritten’ in various ways, giving you the power to find an approach that best fits your situation.

Take 2

Take 2

Author: Leeza Gibbons

Publisher: Hay House, Inc

ISBN: 9781401939830

Category: Self-Help

Page: 304

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If life is an epic saga, who’s in charge of your narrative? Is the plot unfolding as you imagined? Whether you find yourself trudging along in boredom or caught up in a chaotic whirlwind of overcommitment, you can still take creative control and call for Take 2. This is a book about rebooting your life at any point. It’s about starting over; taking inventory; and getting smarter, stronger, and sexier with no apologies, no regrets, and no turning back. I took control of my journey while in the glare of the spotlight. Now I’m sharing the life lessons from my "grits to glitz" path as a wife and mother, caregiver, businesswoman, television personality, product mogul, kisser of boo-boos, and encourager of dreams. Of course I have many more roles, just as you do, but I want to approach them all in the same way: fearlessly and without limits. I’ll hold up the mirror so that you can see who you really are – including all the dramatic plot twists and turns that can make this your most fulfilling adventure ever. This is your life, and you’re about to set out on the path to your second take by reclaiming your power, owning who you are, and loving it!

Equally Shared Parenting

Equally Shared Parenting

Author: Marc Vachon

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 9781101171295

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

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This Is Parenting on Your Own Terms Chances are, you'd rather not forfeit your happy, rested life the moment you become a parent. As a mom, you may want to keep your career, but aren't sure how to balance it with housework and childcare. As a dad, you probably want to witness your child's milestones, but a demanding job may get in the way. And what about time for yourself (never mind your sex life)? Marc and Amy Vachon were determined to beat this scenario when their first child was born. They vowed to sidestep the world's expectations of new parents and create a parenthood model that worked for them. Their strategy was to share everything-the good and the bad. They became peers in each area of parenthood: childcare, housework, and breadwinning. They also made time for themselves, and for each other. They shared the burdens so nobody was overwhelmed, and the joys so neither missed out on the fun. Drawing on Marc and Amy's experiences, as well as those of dozens of ESP couples, Equally Shared Parenting shows you how to create a balanced life that is rarely experienced by today's parents. It's not just about who vacuums and who does the dishes, or who brings in the paycheck and who tends to the kids. You'll learn how to look at every aspect of parenthood, money, careers, and your individual needs, so you can build a life that works for you both.

Fat Sex: New Directions in Theory and Activism

Fat Sex: New Directions in Theory and Activism

Author: Helen Hester

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 9781317136361

Category: Social Science

Page: 240

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While fat sexual bodies are highly visible as vehicles for stigma, there has been a lack of scholarly research addressing this facet of contemporary body politics. Fat Sex: New Directions in Theory and Activism seeks to rectify this, bringing debates about fat sex into the academic arena and providing a much-needed critical space for voices from across the spectrum of theory and activism. It examines the intersection of fat, sex and sexuality within a contemporary cultural landscape that is openly hostile towards fat people and their perceived social and aesthetic transgressions. Acknowledging and engaging with some of the innovative work being done by artists, activists, and academics around the issue of fat sex, this collection both challenges preconceptions regarding fatness and sexuality, but also critiques and debates various aspects of the fat activist approach. It draws on a wide range of disciplinary perspectives, bringing together work from the UK, US, Europe, and Australia to offer a wide-ranging examination of the issues of size, sex, and sexuality. A cutting-edge exploration not only of fat sex, but of identity politics, neoliberalism and contemporary body activism in general, Fat Sex: New Directions in Theory and Activism will be of interest to scholars of sociology, cultural studies, geography, porn studies and literary studies working on questions of gender, sexuality and the body.

Girls Can Move Mountains

Girls Can Move Mountains

Author: Solanges Vivens

Publisher: Atlantic Publishing Company

ISBN: 9781620237137

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 310

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This by-the-bootstraps American success story is one for the ages! Dr. Solanges Vivens explains the 25 most important rules of life and business to the world in hopes to inspire the next generation of female entrepreneurs. From her humble beginnings as black girl in Haiti to a triumphant nursing home director and mother, Solanges has accumulated plenty of wisdom to share. Readers will be inspired by the spiritual fortitude and can-do attitude of a woman who refused to allow herself to be limited by other people’s expectations of her and achieved a boundary-breaking level of success solely through the force of her own will. This is an American success story at its heart, one that will appeal to anyone who wants to make a difference in the world around them by rewriting the rules of who rises to the top and whose rags become riches.

Gawky

Gawky

Author: Margot Leitman

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 9781580054799

Category: Humor

Page: 256

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Some tall girls grow up to have perfect posture and are later seen gracing the pages of magazines. Some are natural athletes with toned legs that mask their overlarge feet. Then there are tall girls: the ones who are always tripping over themselves; who never look normal in any size of clothing; who literally don't fit in. Comedian Margot Leitman was one of these awkward giants, and Gawky is the painfully funny chronicle of her experiences growing up tall. Reaching five feet six inches in fourth grade—and approaching six feet in high school—Leitman realized early on that she'd always stand out from the crowd. To cope, she developed a thick skin and a sharp sense of humor, and instead of forever trying to blend in, she decided to embrace her center-of-attention status. Leitman wears funky, Ziggy Stardust-era jumpsuits (in the 90s); takes up any cause she can find (whether saving the public beaches or protesting prom); and generally makes as much use of her big presence as humanly possible. Leitman's memoir is a hilarious celebration of growing up gangly. Endearing and encouraging, is a cathartic release of everything awkward girls endure-and a tribute to a youth larger than life.

Rewriting Psychology

Rewriting Psychology

Author: David Y. F. Ho

Publisher: Universal-Publishers

ISBN: 9781627347181

Category: Psychology

Page: 332

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Of what use is psychology if it does not help to solve the pressing problems of the day at the individual and collective levels? This is no less a pointed question to the reader as it is to the author that sets the stage for an adventurous sharing of ideas. The author shies away from providing ready-made answers but spares no effort in stirring the reader to ponder questions about human nature and behavior. Soon, the reader will react with the exclamation, “Ah, this book is about me, useful to my life!” In this way, the book serves to bridge the gap between academia and the general public. As the reader may well expect, bold assertions may be found throughout this volume. For instance, Piaget’s stage of formal operations does not represent the final or highest level of cognitive development; rather, dialectical thinking is the apex of human cognition. Viewpoints may be controversial, such as cautioning against importing Confucian education into America; the possibility that madness may enrich your life; raising the question if Trump is immoral, mentally deranged, or both. The present offering is at once audacious and provocative: Having raised the question about the abysmal status of psychology, the author feels compelled to take on the challenge of rewriting an academic discipline. The reader is invited to consider new visions for psychology’s future development, both scientific and practical. Fresh materials or distinctive features seldom found elsewhere are presented: the author’s “secret thoughts” and self-revelations; a discussion on the birth of evil and reinterpretation of the fall of humankind. All these expand the traditional boundaries of psychology and bring it closer to be a science relevant to the human condition.

Rewriting the Return of Africa

Rewriting the Return of Africa

Author: Anne M. François

Publisher: Lexington Books

ISBN: 9780739148266

Category: Literary Criticism

Page: 147

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Rewriting the Return to Africa: Voices of Francophone Caribbean Women Writers examines how post-colonial women writers Maryse Condé, Simone Schwarz-Bart and Myriam Warner Vieyra emerged with a new vision of the notion of origins and identity and in the process revised the myth of the return to Africa previously constructed by Négritude writers in the 1930s. Their works reveal that the rediscovery of Caribbean history and culture leads to a new awareness of hybridity in identity and culture.

Political Science Abstracts

Political Science Abstracts

Author: IFI/Plenum Data Company staff

Publisher: Springer Science & Business Media

ISBN: 9781461517894

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 812

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Political Science Abstracts is an annual supplement to the Political Science, Government, and Public Policy Series of The Universal Reference System, which was first published in 1967. All back issues are still available.